Have you ever wished for a dose of self-confidence right before you get up to speak—in front of several people who hold your career in their hands? How about before that really important interview, or that imperative conversation with your significant other?
Self-confidence. Some people have it and some people don’t. I’m sure you’ve noticed those individuals that light up the room when they walk in, they exude charisma and self-confidence, and you immediately want to get to know them. Wouldn’t it be great to be that charismatic? How much easier would your life be?
I know, it’s been awhile since I published the second article in my three-part article series, but better late than never! If you didn’t see the other two articles (or don’t remember them), here they are:
Yes, there is a simple and effective way to immediately increase your self-confidence. I didn’t say easy. I said simple. If you read the previous articles, you now know where your Power Center is, and that focusing your attention on your Power Center brings the energy into your body and makes you present. Now, you are ready to go to the next step.
Step Three—Learn to hold your space by expanding and containing your energy.
By now, I’m sure you’ve realized that this is energy work. Before I took the Art of Feminine Presence workshop a couple of years ago, I’d never been exposed to energy work before. It was an overwhelming, but transformational experience.
In the first article, I mentioned that the Art of Feminine Presence (AFP) was a body of work created by best-selling author Rachel Jayne Groover. AFP was primarily designed to help women turn on and turn up their powerful and magnetic feminine essence—which gives them a radiant power. The radiant power was clearly embodied by Rachel Jayne. She unmistakably had it—that phenomenal glow and charisma I craved.
Since then, I’ve worked consistently at doing and teaching the practices in AFP. I don’t quite have the same glow as Rachel Jayne, but I’ve experienced some amazing results, like becoming a more effective and dynamic speaker (because I now connect so much better), experiencing a much happier love relationship (instead of the previous four significant, highly tumultuous relationships which all ended in disaster), and feeling the newfound joy, self-confidence and power I feel.
I realized, thru AFP, that I embodied a feminine shell over a masculine way of being. Meaning that throughout my long career in a male-dominated industry, I had tried to be and act like a man—believing that being feminine was somehow weak and ineffective. Problem was, I wasn’t a man. The result was a constant competition in a battle that I couldn’t win—pushing and struggling to get seen and heard.
Now I’ve embodied my feminine essence, my feminine power. Besides experiencing the afore mentioned benefits, I am now in the flow of life, attracting more of what I want—more love, more support, more clients, more money. I also, by the way, work more effectively with men—getting the kind of attention and respect I always wanted.
However, let’s move on to that third step—holding your space by expanding and containing your energy.
Let’s do this. Close your eyes. Relax and breathe. Take a big breath in and let it out slowly. Do that again and again until you feel calm and centered. It all starts with your breath. Now, put your attention on your Power Center. Imagine a light suspending from the center of your Power Center and focus on that. Now, from that point, imagine expanding your energy to just past arm’s length. Go ahead and spread your arms out wide to get a sense of where your energetic boundary is. Enjoy feeling your energy as big and spacious.
I love the metaphor of a light bulb. Your Power Center is the center of this energetic ball of light, the filament. The boundary is the edge of the light bulb. When you contain your energy inside the light bulb, it glows and lights up the rest of the room.
Get into the habit of expanding your energy and containing it. Then when you need to feel more confident, like right before that important interview or presentation, you’ll remember to go into your Power Center and expand your energy. You can be the one who lights up the room when you walk in, and the one everyone wants to get to know.
Now it’s your turn. Tell me what your feel when you expand your energy? Email me email@example.com, or comment below. I look forward to your comments.
Let’s break barriers together!
Dolores, The Running Recruiter
Yes, you can be both powerful and feminine. Are you interested in a free one-hour consultation on how The Art Of Feminine Presence can benefit you? Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Let’s talk. I have a new class starting on March 10 in Irvine, CA. Hurry, only two seats left!
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